I have been SO busy lately. Last week was the deadline for the first assignment of 2010 and now it is a never ending cycle of deadlines until the end of the semester in April. I've also started a new(ish) job, working as a library assistant where I had my placement. I love it lots, but it is tiring trying to fit it in with everything else. The past week I worked 30 hours in work, not including 2 full days in Uni!
On Thursday I had a strange experience. I was on my lunch hour in Uni and my usual lunch buddy was off, so I decided to visit St James' Gardens, which is one of my favourite places in Liverpool. It is the cemetery for the Anglican Cathedral and is built into a quarry, meaning it is so hidden and secluded, it feels like a little haven away from the hustle and bustle of the city.
I was sat there, admiring the snowdrops and listening to the birds and just thinking about how great it was to be there, relaxing. Then, a big tour group of OAPs came along. I was just about to get my book out, when one of these old ladies approached me and said 'Are you sat by yourself? Will no-one sit with you? Awww I feel sorry for you!'. I just said 'Err I'm alright...', because I was. I enjoy spending time alone.
Then, as I was walking back into Uni, I began to get angrier and angrier about what she had said! I get the feeling that if I had been a man sat alone in a park, she wouldn't have batted an eyelid. Is it so wrong for a woman to sit in a park alone, unescorted? I do lots of things alone, like going to the cinema, going for a walk in the park, going shopping, having a coffee. Not because I'm a loner or dislike other people's company, but simply because sometimes people aren't available and I'm okay in my own company. In fact, I think I actually prefer shopping alone so that no-one else slows me down! However, after Thursday, I still think there is a slight stigma attached to women doing things alone. (At least to the older generation). It made me feel quite conscious of the fact that I was alone, but I don't want it to put me off going places alone. I was also quite annoyed with how blunt she was - what if I did genuinely have no friends and was all alone? Surely that comment could be quite upsetting and distressing to some people!
Anyway that was an odd experience. How do you feel about going places alone?